We have two pair of equal shoes and socks. We have trends on matching sets, suits etc. And even though we have two legs we usually dress them in one fitting pair of pants. We have all these unsaid rules about how things should be. We don't put on one Nike shoe and one dr.Martens boot, that would be weird and feel uncomfortable, I’d presume.

 

And I know that not everyone in a relationship have the same rules or go by the same book about the whole twosome idea. But I wonder why I, myself, have always seen this as the main goal for a relationship. And how weird my boyfriend would feel if I said that I've met someone else who I've fallen in love with, even though I still would be in love with him. Because that is possible right? To love two people at the same time? Maybe we can, but maybe we just don't want to acknowledge that. Because that isn't the norm and thereby it would be an uncomfortable discussion to have.

 

With fashion you could easily play around with your clothes, take on leg of a pair of pants and stitch it up with another leg. You could wreck it up again and stitch it up with another and so on.. But that would mean a lot of work, effort, knowledge and understanding. And some pants won't match and some speical pants you'll be to afraid of to wreck up, because the chance would be that you'll destroy them forever.

 

The same idea would kinda apply for people. If you have the same understanding of what a relationship means, if you put up the work and effort to explain what you want from a relationship you'll probably gain knowledge and understanding from the other person(s) in the relationship. And maybe you'll find a match or several. But it would also be a risk to do that, because of the fact that we have these norms and rules in our society and everyone will not be willing to change or challenge them. And if you find that special one, that you're not quite sure will understand you're meaning of a relationship, but you're not either willing to let go of, well then you'll probably find yourself in a hard situation.

 

So I wonder how one can be in love when love have so many meanings, when love is full of rules that either apply or not apply to you, when you (as with your clothes) can love someone today and hate them tomorrow, when one person is enough and not enough at the same time.

 

Well I don't know. But I love to wonder.