Keys to having a couple relationship

This clash of personalities, interests and even objectives, can turn a couple of relationships into a real ordeal. Possibly there is still a great attraction, however, the difficulties that can arise and especially the bad communication can cause the relationship to become toxic. For this to not happen we must always:

  1. Love from freedom and respect
  2. Communicate effectively
  3. Negotiate and propose intermediate solutions
  4. Share time with the couple
  5. Pamper the relationship
  6. Change if necessary
  7. Trust in the other

  You can deepen these tips in our post: "The 7 keys to having a healthy relationship"

Love according to Sternberg's theory

There have been many love theorists, one of the best known is Robert Sternberg. In his triangular theory of love, the American psychologist says that there are three different components that manifest themselves in any relationship: intimacy, passion, and commitment:

  Intimacy: Intimacy refers to affection, to the relationship with the couple, to that connection that we only feel with the person we love.
  Passion: It is the intense feeling of being with that person intimately and expressing romantic desires. It is the excitement and the intense desire to spend moments alone with the other.
  The commitment: The commitment is the decision to be with the other person and to maintain that love over time. It is what helps to a couple of times overcome bad times.

Types of the loving couple

In love, not everything is white or black, but there are many ways to love. But how can we classify couples? Following the theory of Sternberg, it proposes different types of love and, therefore, differentiated types of partners.

In this article, you can find different types of couple and their different kinds of parforhold. They are the following:

1. Infatuation
The infatuated couples are characterized because they only have one characteristic of the three that have been commented on in the previous section: passion. Despite being together, the members of the couple do not really know each other, which results in low intimacy. Likewise, they do not feel commitment either. Infatuation can refer to the beginning of the relationship.

2. Empty relationships
Empty love is one that is characterized by commitment, but there is no passion or intimacy. Basically, it refers to marriages for convenience.

3. Romantic couples
Romantic love is characterized by intimacy and passion, however, there is no commitment. It would be the typical summer love or short relationships in which nothing is rationalized or agreements are established between the people involved. Everything is experienced spontaneously without trying to establish it as a clearly solid relationship. Then a couple of time will be the best

4. Sociable couples
Sociable love refers to the love that two people feel when there are intimacy and commitment, but not passion. For example, when they have many years of relationship and no longer have intimate encounters, but rather are governed by routine and shared activities that can also be done in the social sphere beyond the domestic.

5. Fatuous relationships
In these couples, intimacy is never built. They are characterized by passion and commitment, but not intimacy. This makes it very common to keep many secrets for yourself, even if they are important and concern the other person involved in the relationship. Love is experienced as a one-sided experience.

6. Accomplished love
The relationships that present this type of love are those that can be happy. They are healthy relationships, which have the three components of Sternberg's theory: intimacy, passion, and commitment.
Other kinds of couple

However, depending on the quality of the relationship, the time took together and the values ​​of the couple, there are other types of partners:

7. The best friends
They say that the couple is a friend with erotic moments. Sometimes intimate moments are shared with that person who is your faithful friend. In this type of couple, the members may have been friends already in school, grew up together and shared great moments of friendship. One day, the way they saw each other changed, and then romantic love arose between them. However, it can happen that people meet at later ages and after being best friends end up as a couple of time.

8. The quarrelsome
According to a popular saying, close love is the most loved. This may be true with this type of couples. They have discussions every two times and they get along like the cat and the dog, but there they go, rowing against the current. If you are friends with any of them, you are probably tired of comforting them. And, even if you do not understand it, either one of the two members has low self-esteem, or their moments of intimacy are really excellent.

Without a doubt, sharing a hobby with your partner is one of the best ways to keep the relationship alive. Some couples go camping together, surf or climb. Others are fitness lovers, and others are partiers and lovers of the night. These couples share many moments together and enjoy each other.

Some couples met really young and have spent their whole lives together. These couples, without doubt, are the ideal couple in the eyes of the people, but not all relationships have this luck. Many break down on the road due to the wear and tear produced by the accumulation of crises and quarrels, or the loss of passion or intimacy.

Sometimes, it may happen that love arises but the person lives elsewhere. Many decide that this is not a way to live and one of the two moves to where the other is. However, for different reasons, this is not always possible, and some couples have to spend a long time in the distance. Distance is not good for the relationship, so this type of couple usually does not last long.

Although it costs us to accept it, some people are in pairs for interest. Whether for economic reasons, for getting papers or for not being alone. As sad as it may seem, they even get married. It is a way of understanding love in which this sensation has an instrumental purpose.

There are some couples who escape their love from the four winds, who are hanging pictures all day on social networks and spend 24 hours together. If they go out with friends, they are always on top of each other "smooching nonstop." These couples can’t spend a single moment without each other because they are madly in love.

Many couples are classic, however, there are exceptions. Some are liberal couples, so they have a different way of thinking than traditional couples. While many would think that sleeping with others is a betrayal and infidelity, liberal couples think that for the health of the couple, they should be introducing other actors in intimate perforhold.